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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]+2. Mooost women who suddenly became single and were sleeping around with new people would be considered high libido. Most women in the first year or two of a new relationship are "high libido". It is totally TOTALLY different within the context of a decades long marriage and sex with the same person. And yes, a lot of these long term marriages started out hot and heavy in bed, not it some sort of "whelp, guess I'll just compromise on the sex aspect" manner...the point is that after yeRs and years of marriage (and kids, and daily stressors, and having sex with the same person) things change. The excitement and newness wanes. It seems you're having a difficult time grasping this concept, and I'm not sure why. It's not a particularly complicated one [/quote]

Because she is NOT married (and probably never was 10+ years living in the same house with the same man). Things change. I wanted sex ALL THE TIME my friends made fun of me and men either loved it (my current husband) or were intimidated (ex boyfriend actually told me that I was trying to make him feel less of a man for trying to have sex in the car when he did not want to). So I am pretty sure I AM/WAS high drive and still have sex regularly (and enjoy it), but it’s not the same.

I do think that if I was not with my husband, I would still be the same person I was in my late 20s when I got married and started a family, but I would never trade the exciting sex I had then with the life and love I have now... I do wish I could have both[/quote]
Women often confuse novelty for libido. Yes, we know that sex with new people is appealing, fun, exciting, intoxicating. Men experience that too! But even AFTER that initial novelty wears off, we still want to have sex with our women. THAT is libido.[/quote]

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