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[quote=Anonymous]As someone who gets this a lot, I agree with PP. It’s ok to ask where did your parents grow up or where they are from.  And if she says “Chicago,” then that’s it. I think what gets to me at least is the implication that the person is asking because of some idea of what it means to look American and because I don’t look like that, there’s no way I could be American with American parents and American grandparents. It’s why when I say my parents were born and raised here and my grandparents were born and raised here, I get annoyed when people then keep asking but where are they really from? They are really from the U.S. When someone does ask where my parents grew up, and I say california, and they stop asking questions, cool. Really the most polite thing to do is to wait for it to come up naturally. If you really must ask, stick to asking specifically about ancestry to avoid the implication that they can’t be from the U.S.  I get a lot less offended when someone just asks me what my ancestry is if that is what they actually want to know. [/quote]

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