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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I share a Google calendar with things listed that need to be done. These are things that aren't done normally because either one of is enjoys it (grocery lists and shopping for me) or because we naturally just do what we can during the week (laundry and picking up).  That stuff we all split pretty 50/50.

The calendar is more for calling for appts, signing up for things, things that need to be done around the house (check fire alarms and replace batteries for example). DH and I both add to this list and every couple of weeks we sit down and go over the next couple of weeks and divide the tasks. Some weeks one of us does more to ease the burden on the other if work is going to be particularly bad.  We have two rules..

1.  Anything involving signing up for a commitment needs to be run by the other spouse first.

2.  No micromanaging.

We also have "assigned duties" for anything that crops up.

It works out great.  It keeps us organized and current (we are both procrastinators) and it's caused DH to be more involved in the "family" planning vs the "house" planning.  I was a SAHM for 2 years, so I had undestandably been the default.  I like our plan. It may not work for some, but it works for us. [/quote]

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