Reply to women's invisible labor - anyone had luck getting spouse to take on more of the mental work?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "women's invisible labor - anyone had luck getting spouse to take on more of the mental work?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What happens when you ask for help with a specific task with out all the psychobabble?
“Will you please find a pediatrician and schedule the kids next appt?” Or, “the kids have paperwork for school, could you handle that?  [/quote]

Read up on the psychobabble, and you'd see that asking for help with a specific task is taking on the role of the executive manager, and it's a gigantic burden, much greater than being handed 2 forms to fill and asked to make a ped appt.[/quote]
I've read. My point is, how about instead of complaining to DH, "I'm taking on 85% of the mental load", just asking for help. OP's DH is getting defensive because she is criticizing him for not doing enough mental load, when surely he doesn't even know what mental load is. And all OP really wants is help.
Unless she wants to complain about mental load, and then of course, she is just complaining and the kids aren't getting to the ped and the forms are still sitting on the counter, meanwhile her DH is angry and she is resentful=failed marriage.
This is a communication problem. Just ask for what you need specifically and stop with the mental load ridiculous mommy blogging BS. The eyes of most men will glaze over.[/quote]

so women not only take on the mental load, but also the additional emotional labor of communicating that juussst right so their delicated husbands don't "glaze over." gotcha. [/quote]

Oh god go marry yourself.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics