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[quote=Anonymous]OP, please come back and update us. I hope you've reconsidered and will get a good attorney who will get you your fair share of assets. Once you are divorced, your husband can no longer use the money to control you. You seem to feel that he will still have a hold on you if you take money; that's just not the case. You're excited at the prospect of telling him, "I don't need or want your money! I walk away free!" But it's not his money -- it's yours as a married couple. Take nothing and you won't be free. Lose your job, get sick or injured, have a major, unexpected expense--and you will be chained to debt very quickly.

Please do nothing until you are well into therapy. You're seeing your "freedom" through rose-colored glasses and it could cost you not just financially but emotionally if you proceed as recklessly as your first post says. Of course you can divorce, but if you do it in a way that blindsides and hurts your kids (yes, college students are still your kids and wil take it far harder than you seem to think), and leaves you struggling (yes, your income is not realistically sufficient)--if you divorce in the way you're proposing, you will lack both funds AND your kids' presence in your life.

I'm actually worried for your state of mind. Please see a therapist and a financial counselor. If you need to, hide the therapist visits from your husband and get financial advice from your bank; many provide free consulting to customers. [/quote]

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