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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the fall. I’m sure[b] it will be a huge shock as he knows nothing about this[/b]. But I’ve been thinking that I’m young enough to start over - I’m only 48. I could still meet someone. But more than that I just want to start my life over and live on my own terms. I never got to do that in my 20s. I’ve literally spent my entire adult life taking care of other people and I am so burned out. I just want to be selfish and live for myself now.

Anywhere here’s my real question. I’m thinking about waiving my right to my half of the assets (several million dollars, none of it earned by me) and all our stuff. I just don’t to bring want any of that stuff with me. My friend says this is literally insane but I can’t convince her why I don’t want any of that stuff, even the money. I want to start over like I’m 22. I have a good enough job to support myself.

Has anyone else been through this? Do you think I will regret the financial aspect? Friend says I should raise the possibility of separation first and ease into it. But honestly I just want to take the leap and feel the free fall. I just want to completely burn it down.

Anyone btdt who can talk me through this?[/quote]

Sorry, but you sound like a horrible person.

1) the fact that it "will be a huge shock as he knows nothing about this" means you haven't tried and made it clear how you feel - if you did than it wouldn't be such a shock when the time came.  So shame on you for blindsiding him, and not giving him the chance to work with you and a counselor to save your marriage.
2) you sound cavalier about how this affects everyone except you (i.e. your children and other family)
3) you will need roughly $2M by most financial advisors guidance to retire, so how do you plan to raise what wakes most people a lifetime to save in just ~15 yrs.  
4) the whole start off like I'm 22 thing is sad and immature - you CAN'T relive your 20's.  Get over it.[/quote]

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