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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, she really overstepped. I would be really pissed but don’t see what good will come of it to call her out on it now, unfortunately. Any future overstepping needs a swift reaction though.

Next baby, don’t call her until after the baby has been delivered. [/quote]

I would let it go BUT she may have been trying to do the best for you (always assume the best).  However, if you feel like you have to say something say something like "MIL, Trudy told me that you asked her to leave the hospital.  I was waiting for her and had been texting with her all day.  Just so you know, she did have my permission to come see me."[/quote]

This--but DH says it to his mother, not OP. Especially crucial if MIL tends to be overly intervening- though I do agree with assuming the best of MIL if she is otherwise OK to you, OP.

Each spouse handles his or her parents when things go awry. Of course OP is an adult and can discuss it with MIL herself but right now with a new infant, it's better for DH to run interference and just say his piece and then drop it. He shouldn't let it morph into a discussion where MIL tries to justify herself etc. Just: "Mom, so you know--Friend said she came to see DW and you turned her away. I realize you didn't know at the time but DW and friend had been in touch during labor and DW was expecting Friend. DW understands you meant to give her privacy though I wish you hadn't taken it to Facebook as well."

OP, be sure your friend knows the whole mixup was not conveyed to you until much later and MIL was not speaking for you or for DH. 
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