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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Backstory: I'm a really bad driver and parker. I've never gotten into a bad car accident but I have fender benders fairly frequently (at least once a year, sometimes more sometimes less). But over the years, it's added up obviously and DH remembers every single one.

Well today I accidentally hit a stop sign while parking the car and he's pissed at me again. He's not giving me the silent treatment but he's icy and distant.

I don't do it on purpose but I have a really bad sense of depth perception. I keep asking if we can trade my car in for something smaller (I drive a minivan and think it would be better if I had something smaller that's easier to park like a Civic) but he refuses to consider the idea because we "need" this big car for trips and things. I kind of feel like that is setting me up to fail again. But still I know it is my fault.

How do you handle it when your partner is justifiably angry at you because you keep making mistakes? [/quote]

A) If you do something wrong, take responsibility.  Personally I'd feel awful if I was denting my vehicle every year, and I would say Sorry, this sux, I'll deal with it and try not to have it happen again."
B) Do not make excuses for messing up.  This is a terrible bad habit. Take responsibility for your actions, do not make excuses for your actions.  You will discredit yourself and lose trust. 
C) Work as a team to find a solution. Here it sounds like you should be car pooling or driving the other vehicle. Just rent a big @$$ van when you need it. $250 a week max. 
D) Don't mess up on purpose to pretend to prove a point.  Another terrible bad habit, where you again discredit yourself and appear untrustworthy. 
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Healthiest way to "handle it when you're in the wrong" is to Take responsibility, Apologize, Fix it. Then everyone Moves on. [/b][/quote]

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