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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who got married too young in their 20's or because  of a deadline like turning 30are the most predictable for divorce.[/quote]

Funny - the couples I know who got married straight out of undergrad are still married.

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I was the first to get married (after first year of law school). My friends got married shortly after grad school. Everyone has their first baby around 28-30.

All of us are still happily married.

My two cents: when an educated guy wants to commit and have babies, he craves monogamy and isn't likely to stray. [/quote]

Ditto in our group. The college sweethearts are all still together (got married around 25/26, for the most part). The people in trouble are the ones who got married in their early/mid 30s - I won't use the word desperate but they clearly felt a push and unwittingly overlooked/compromised on a lot, and as the years have gone on the cracks began to show. [/quote]

NP here.  I'm 32 and witnessing the "early 30s settle down frenzy" in real time.   It's like the music just stopped playing in musical chairs and no one wants to be left standing.  People always point to the lower divorce rate for couples who get married around 30 like it is some indicator of happiness. 
 While these marriages often stay together, but I'm not sure that it is because they are happier. When people have kids in their mid to late 30s, the financial stakes can be much higher when it comes time to divorce (these people have to plan for kid expenses, college, and retirement all at once).  This group also tends to be more educated and can weigh the consequences of divorce much more easily.  They know they'll have less time to rebuild.  So while they might not divorce, I definitely don't think that couples who marry later are generally better matched, even though they theoretically should be.

People who get together very young (in college) often had their choice of many partners. These are people who chose each other when there were tons of people around them who were single, not when they they were hearing the clock go tick-tock. Therefore, I think there is a good chance - for those couples who work out - that these people are highly, highly compatible.
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