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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you deal with going from seeing your child every single day to a handful of times a year? This is gonna hurt.[/quote]

It’s supposed to be hard. It’s even supposed to hurt. That means you love your kid— and like them as a person.  But, like everything else about parenting, you do it anyway, and try not to cry when you say goodbye, because it is what is best for your kid. To grow as a person, and practice adultimg and make their own decisions and plan their own lives. And feel like they can’t do a weekend outing with a friend because mom is there, or that you can’t handle it if they stay at school for most of the summer to intern, or miss coming home for spring break to travel with friends.

Of course, also let her know that if she ever needs to talk, you will answer the phone 24/7.  And if she is ever sick or overwhelmed or needs you, you will buy a plane ticket and be there.  That you are there— on her terms.

And PP is right. It’s hard to remember, but you were a person with a full life before she was born. You can be again. Travel, dinners out with friends, getting involved in volunteering, taking a class, putting in more hours at work, getting an new hobby.  After college applications are in and she starts becoming more independent and relies on you less in the lead up to leaving for college, slowly start to find your way back to things that you enjoy.[/quote]

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