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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does it mean to me?

I got really lucky. I started dating my future husband at 18, almost 19. We got married when I was 23, he was 27. We’ve been married for 13 years and have 3 beautiful, healthy, happy children. He is my very best friend, my partner in raising our children, and the absolute rock of my life. We genuinely enjoy each other’s company and just click in that way. We see the world in similar ways, we come from similar backgrounds and have the same goals and values, and have a similar sense of humor. Even now all these years later there’s no one else I’d rather just hang out and shoot the shit with.

I admire and respect him so much. He has a pretty demanding high powered job and I find it very impressive. And he’s the *best* father: openly loving and affectionate, hands on, involved and interested in every aspect of their lives the same way I am. I’m a SAHM now but when he’s home he’s in it 50/50 with me or else giving me a break because he’s such a generous, caring husband. I’ve known him for more than half my life now. Sometimes the weight of that history feels a little surreal. We are not the same people we were at 18/22 but luckily we grew up together.

And since people asked about sex, the sex is better than its ever been. We typically have sex 2x week which, judging by this board, is pretty good for a couple who has been monagamous for 18 years! And it’s always great. I almost always O twice.

Would I tell people we are “deeply in love”? Honestly no because I agree with the PP that that sounds really corny and cliched and like you’re bragging. But I do realize we have a really great marriage and a lot to be thankful for. I definitely got really lucky.[/quote]

When you say you "click" I wonder how much that has to do with who you are as people and the fact that you've been together for 18 years since you were 18, kwim? If you've been with the same person all of your adult life and you have a good marriage now, it makes sense to think that you guys went through those various phases together and that those experiences shaped you in similar ways.

In other words, what I'm wondering is if couples who get together young have a better chance in the long run because they have an opportunity to grow together.[/quote]

PP here. I don't know, I guess that makes sense. To be honest, I say I got really lucky because what I was looking for at 18 in a boyfriend was not necessarily what I would have been looking for in a potential husband at 30 something, you know? All of that stuff about money, kids, career, lifestyle choices, etc. etc. that's so important now couldn't have been further from my mind at the time. We started dating for the usual reasons 18 year olds do (physical attraction, lol) and continued because we liked each other.

When I met him, I was immediately attracted to him and fell hard right away. I thought he was sooo cute, so nice, he was obviously really smart and hard working, I liked his friends, I liked his family, and my friends adored him. He was just a really really nice, cute guy. And for me, it was the first time I'd eve been head over heels like that for someone. I'd dated a little bit before him but it was nothing like this. For him to be attracted back to me felt like a small miracle. I was really really into him and super swoony about him for a long time, even years into our marriage (I think I kind of got over a lot of that butterfly giddy stuff after we started having kids, lol). I didn't even really notice other guys as being attractive until well into our marriage. I don't know, I think it was just luck that it all worked out the way it did. And really I credit a lot of it to him. He is *such* a nice, kind person. Sometimes I wonder what he is doing with me because I feel like he is such a catch and a little out of my league.[/quote]

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