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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She supported you, per your own admission. It is your turn now. It isn't easy to re-establish a career after you are out of the workforce for several years.[/quote]

This is such crap. If the DW were the one typing this you'd all tell him to get himself home for dinner at least 4 nights a week and go back to work after the kids are in bed if he has more work to do on those nights. And you'd tell the DW to stop doing all the house stuff for him and talk to him about how he needs to find some time just like she does to help him pick up some of the slack. You would all rally behind her and say how she needs to remind him that having two incomes means you both pitch in equally, etc. This is just utter crap.[/quote]

OP here.

I can see both perspectives on the above and based on one of the PP's advice of talking about expectations, I think DW and I need to develop our own set of expectations for each other.  I do think it's reasonable for her to be home at least twice a week for dinner.  I don't think she needs to cook dinner because we can use something like galley or prepared foods that we can just heat up.  The conversation at the table is different when everyone is there (the kids and I are definitely more sillier when mommy is not around) and DW and I talk more together when we're eating with the family - this is based on my observations of when we go out to eat on the weekends.

Also, getting galley is like getting take out - no dishes so win/win (no dinner pre and no dishes afterwards).[/quote]

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