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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again. I am more sad than angry at my spouse, and I don't feel like I wasted my fertile years on a dud at all. He said that if I felt 100 percent certain very strongly that we needed to have another, he would consider it, but he just really doesn't want to. He's older, [b]almost 50, [/b]loves our child like crazy, but doesn't want to go back to the baby stage again or be [b]trying to retire and pay college tuition at the same time and also feels like he doesn't have the energy to do two[/b]. It's hard to argue with that.

I worry abut leaving out child alone in the world. There are several cousins, but none close enough geographically to feel like siblings.

It's weird because I never had a strong baby urge before, but it's hitting me now. I had thought I'd "get over" it faster.[/quote]

All very legitimate concerns, OP.  Frankly, the thought of never being able to retire because of college, etc. would scare me as well.  Realistically, even if you get pregnant right away, he'll be 68 - past full retirement age - when your kid graduated high school.  That's a tough thought.  And never mind that, at 50, having the energy to deal with an infant/toddler.  I know some people could easily do it; I couldn't. [/quote]

NP here and I don't mean to be morbid but there's also a more significant chance that he could end up dying while the child is still a teenager than if he was closer to your age.  Obviously, any of us could go at any time but the probabilities increase with age.  [/quote]

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