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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really need to be asking this question of 45 and 50 year olds--when the midlife crisis collides with the empty nest and a long marriage this is when you start to see things crack. [/quote]

So under this theory, people who married in 30s still have kids at home at 45-50 so they don’t have midlife crisis?  Or is it that they had more freedom in 20s so don’t feel tied down?[/quote]

This is us.  Married at 33/34 and now almost 20 years in with HS freshman and HS senior.  Neither of us feels particularly "tied down" because we did what we wanted to do through our 20s and early 30s.  On the flip side, we didn't date for very long and had kids almost immediately after we got married, so I think the challenge for us as empty nesters will be figuring out how to be a couple.  No reason to think it won't work, but we haven't had much practice and we both tend to want to do our own thing.[/quote]

Becoming empty nesters really is a "passage" for couples. For many SAHM's their lives have been overly centered on their children and when the children leave home they feel adrift. If they have a great relationship with their spouses things will be fine. But if they don't the road can become very rocky. [/quote]

I agree, but I think this is the case of any new empty nesters who have not invested heavily in their relationship.  I know plenty of dual-career households that broke-up when the kids were in college.  I'm a SAHM and, if anything, I feel it gives us MORE time to invest in enjoying our marriage.[/quote]

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