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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re not a single parent. You don’t have to worry about earning money + looking after your children. I agree your dh sounds terrible but you are not having to be a single parent.

—SAHM[/quote]

I had a similar situation as OP and after many years we ended up in family therapy. After about the first couple of sessions, the therapist looked at us and said we had the same dynamics/problems as many single parent households. I still do the vast majority of the chores, but DH now engages with the kids much more. Therapy might help OP but we only got there after repeated crisis with our adolescent tween boys.  [/quote]

Ok, ppl. A single parent has to parent and also worry about putting food on the table and roof over the head of the family.  SAHM with unhelpful DH is NOT the same situation. OP doesn't worry about where the next meal is coming from. In a single parent household there is not dynamics with DH being disengaged - there is simply no DH.  It's a big difference and I am a bit astounded that some people just don't see it.[/quote]

[b]This. I'm a year into being a single mom - actually a single mom - whose ex lives thousands of miles away. He sends what he's required to send and not a penny more. He pays for their health insurance and contributes 1/7th of his income,[/b] has seen the kids four times, and I'm using all of my income to cover childcare costs, clothes, etc etc etc for the kids (not saving, not contributing to retirement). I'm not saying being a SAHM isn't lonely, or being in a bad marriage isn't sad, but it is just NOT the same. It's quite rude to consider yourself a single parent. Stop. [/quote]

Huh. I wouldn’t consider you a single parent either. Seems like you get healthy financial support and regular breaks from your kids when they go spent time with their other parent. Actual single parents don’t get either of those things.[/quote]

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