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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My coworker and I are both in long term relationships,[/b] but work very closely together. I have long suspected that she had a crush on me (stray comments at happy hours where she would gush about how amazing I was, then blush profusely). I never thought much of it until one point last year. It was like a switch went off, and suddenly I was incredibly attracted to her. She’s called me her work husband, which for whatever reason, gets me even more.

There was a happy hour two months ago that we arrived early to and were sitting by ourselves. She joked several times that she was a cheap date.

I have never reacted to any of this, but I’m only human and wow, this is hard.

After that happy hour, I had to work at a client site out of state for a few weeks and that helped to take my mind off everything.

But I’ve been back in the office and working almost exclusively with her again. The project is very demanding, and we’re leaning on each other a lot for emotional support. Well, in particular, she is leaning really hard on me for emotional support to get through the workday. It feels like the level of emotional intimacy between us has gone to another level lately. We’re the only ones who understand the pressure we are under.

So what do I do with this?  During my “alone time”, I can’t stop thinking about the two of us becoming physical. I would never take an action on these feelings, but if she moved first, I’m not sure I’m strong enough to say no. There’s a part of me that very much wants it.

So do I go with it? Or do I find a way out of this?[/quote]

[b]You start off by saying that you are in a long-term relationship and then later on say that you are actually married. Sounds like you don't want to be married so do your spouse the favor of just letting them go now[/b].[/quote]
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If I were married to a guy who described our marriage as a "long term relationship" and asked a bunch of internet strangers if he should "go with it" he'd be doing me a HUGE favor by letting me in on this so I could let him go. Just ridiculous.[/quote]

Maybe they've been together 25+ years. He's trying to convey that they have history, longevity and, maybe, too much familiarity.[/quote]

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