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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm hoping some of you with British relatives can help me out here. I've got a very British brother-in-law married to my sister-in-law, a native Texan. BIL has lived in TX for over two decades, yet has not pursued US citizenship and only visits the UK once annually. My SIL is a nice, smart woman but completely mind-screwed by his insistence of (what he perceives as) very British manners, customs, foods.

That's all fine and well, but my problem is they have a very active, energetic, sweet 3-year old son who they are forcing this on, as well. He is not allowed to watch or even talk about things American. They watch BBC and Formula 1, cricket, and cycling with a strange fanaticism. Despite living in semi-rural Texas, lil' dude even speaks with a British accent like the old man.

I'm no right-winger by any stretch, but it definitely feels anti-American and condescending/rude to my and my wife's family and culture. They visited us in DC this weekend and the poor kid was all over the tee ball/bat.

TLDR: My BIL is a strange Brit who is brainwashing my nephew. What would you do?

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[b]How and why did a "very" British man end up living in semi-rural east Texas? [/b]

I don't think there is a correct response to this from a British perspective. It's not a cultural thing but a personality thing. He isn't stereotypically British but stereotypically an asshole.

I'd just stay out of it. The kid will adjust to Americanism soon enough. It's impossible. Just like offsprings of Americans who grow up in the UK often become more British than Americans. [/quote]

I figured this question would come up. He came here with his Dad-who he is estranged from entirely-about 25 years ago to be a trades apprentice (lineman for a power co.). He's steadily moved up the corporate ladder (literally), and has stuck around probably because of the relatively low COL.

He and his Dad live literally 15 minutes from each other and haven't spoke since like 1999. [/quote]

So basically you don't like your BIL and find anything he does annoying and objectionable. Got it.

Grow up. [/quote]

God forbid she has an opinion!  It's probably justified!

Ps- grow up means "accept that as a woman you will have zero pride and accept bad behavior from everyone else."[/quote]

The bad behavior being what, exactly? Teaching his child his native customs and culture? Not playing baseball? [/quote]

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