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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm just much closer to my mom and want to hang out with her with or without my kids around, but these days I mostly have kids around me. I have no desire to hang out with my MIL although I make the effort to see her so she doesn't feel left out, but it is an effort.[/quote]
This!

I’m also sure I personally make time once a month for MIL. Of course, my husband could take our DC and visit his mom to hang out like I do with my mom, be my he doesn’t choose to, nor does he really want to. Somehow, MILs everywhere see this as the DILs doing. [/quote]

Yes yes yes.  To all of this.  Though my DH does a pretty good job of seeing his mother without me organizing it, but it's NOTHING like the way I spend time with my mother (which is very casual, easy and low stress).  His mother is, to put it kindly, a high stress person to be around.  Having kids has helped because they are the ultimate buffer for me.  But I would never go out of my way to spend any time with my MIL solo.  Ever.  In fact just the idea of that gives me anxiety.  I recognize she's an important person for my kids, she really does love and adore them.  I'll always allow them to have their own relationship with her, but she is simply very unpleasant to me the vast majority of the time, so I am not interested in a more personal relationship with her.  [/quote]

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