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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. The other difference between these guys and the guys before is that these guys are divorced. Because of my age, that's most of my available dating pool. Guys were divorced between 3 months, a year, and 3 years. Is this a "divorced guy" thing? It's like they feel entitled to my body without putting in the effort needed when dating and building a relationship. [/quote]
I more suspect these divorced guys have emerged from a marriage where the wife lost all interest in sex which is obviously a disincentive for sexually exclusivity. Given that non-married men have so many sexual options, far more than they ever experienced back before marriage, it is understandable why some might not rush back into a sexual exclusive commitment.[/quote]

Op here. This is depressing. Are these men frequently successful at getting women to sleep with them with no commitment or promise of exclusivity? I literally have zero friends who are willing to sleep with men without first having a conversation about making sure they're on the same page about not sleeping with other people - for health reasons, if nothing else. Are there a lot of women who are like "sure, I'll sleep with you even though your profile is still up and you may be having sex with others"? And the women truly don't care that the men are sleeping around? I would love to know statistically what's really happening. As opposed to guys on the internet just posting that "yeah this is normal just deal" which I suspect may be them trying to convince women they have to put up with this BS.[/quote]

If their tactics weren't successful, they would quickly change tactics. So Yes: they are are actually finding such women. Would you wait until "exclusive" to introduce a guy to your best friends or your sister? Probably not, because socializing with your close friends is probably such an indispensable thing it would be hard to consider the relationship serious without it. Plus you might actually want to see how everybody mixes as part of your decision criteria before deciding to devote yourself exclusively to this guy. That's how some people view sex, especially divorced guys coming out of a low-sex marriage. Sexual compatibility is a key thing in making the commitment to become exclusive.[/quote]

Guy here. This is an excellent, nuanced, and accurate post.

And yes, they are finding plenty of single women willing to sleep with them without an exclusive agreement. In fact, a divorced guy in his late 30s has a TON of options - women as young as late 20s and as old as mid 40s are willing to take a chance on him. Guys never had that breadth of women when they were in their mid 20s and dating their college sweetheart.[/quote]

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