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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh OP sorry no one here is taking you seriously. I have the same issue and it sucks. And for the record guys...coming on here and saying "there's no way, doesn't compute, that just doesn't make sense" doesn't make us feel any better - we are well aware of the (in many cases well-earned, sure) stereotype that the man wants it all the time and the woman is the withholder/gatekeeper...you're just making us feel worse and more alone.

Anyways OP I too am attractive, have not gained weight and did not turn him down a bunch or anything, and my husband seems largely uninterested. I think part of it is stress - when he gets stressed it just falls by the wayside for him. But that shouldn't explain a total lack of interest. It seems he's just low drive, and that sucks because sex has only become more important to me as I age. I wouldn't say porn addiction or anything but I do think my husband also got into the habit of a quick porn jerkoff because it was easier and quicker and he's just exhausted by the time he gets home. I dunno. Everyone will come on here and respond and tell me that's no excuse and doesn't make sense and they're never too tired or stressed for sex, and I will feel even worse / more hopeless [/quote]

[b]It’s so much more common than people think for the guy to be the one avoiding sex. It doesn’t compute with people's notions about male sexuality. You are not alone. It sucks  and it can really kill your self-esteem[/b].[/quote] This is so true. DW here, 45 married 16 years. I could have sex everyday. He has always been low drive, I'm ok with it. I deal with it, but last 5+ years, ZERO interest. From day 1 of dating I have always been the one to initiate. And I am always the one rejected, "not feeling it, tired, don't want to talk about it". I feel for the women out there also going through this with a man they truly love and desire. It's a tough life.[/quote]

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