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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You had so much to drink that you're not sure if he wore a condom or not, you were a little too freaky for your comfort the next morning and you did something out of character.  You're busy worrying whether he will call you back.  You should be thinking about your drinking issues.  That tipsy on 2 glasses of wine is pretty unlikely.  Either you drank more than you thought, you mixed meds and drinking or someone put something in your drink.  The most likely answer is you drank more than you thought or are admitting.  That's a red flag.  It's also a red flag that you drank to such an extent to relieve your anxiety.  I'm not saying you're an alcoholic, but your drinking is unhealthy and risky and you ought to reconsider your boundaries on that.[/quote]

Op here. I don’t have a drinking problem. I almost never drink, which is what I said in my first post. I am 5’1 and 110lbs. 2 glasses of wine can get me pretty tipsy. I drink maybe 1-2 times a year, tops. Before Saturday night, I had not drank in almost a year, because I don’t like the taste. I do not take any medication of any kind. I was nervous, and we ended up splitting a bottle of wine. I will be damned if I will be made out as a bad person or someone who has a drinking problem, when it’s not true. [/quote]

I'm not saying you're a bad person OP.  I'm not saying you have an alcohol problem.  I said your drinking is unhealthy and risky, even if it only happens a few times a year.  I actually think it's fine to sleep with someone on the third date, or even first date, so I'm not calling you slutty either.

But it's clear that excessive alcohol (excessive for YOU) helped you do something that was unusual for YOU and about which YOU have expressed some discomfort and which carried health risks (being unsure if you had protected or unprotected sex is risky with anyone).

If you "Split a bottle", a standard wine bottle has around 5 5oz/150 ml pours, so you probably drank at least 2.5 glasses, more if he was pouring more generously for you instead of himself in the hope of loosening you up.

My point is you drank too much for YOU and you should really think about better drinking boundaries.  At your weight maybe one is your max.  Or slow it down and alternate with more water or add in some food.  You should also think about other ways to manage your anxiety.  Why were you nervous?  Why did you choose to lubricate that with alcohol rather than talking to him, or talking to a friend, or slowing things down, or whatever?[/quote]

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