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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear OP, I went through exactly the same thing. I married very young, divorced after a year. Few years later, I met a man that turned my life upside down. We had a great relationship, marriage, friendship, or that’s what I thought. Five years into marriage, he cheated on me. Left me for his AP. I was crashed, devastated, broken. However, I am not sure whether I wanted to make it work because of my love for him, or because I could not take failure for a second time. I think that that was the hardest thing for me. Thinking about a second divorce was too much for me to even consider. I was determined to save the marriage. But one day, I woke up and I saw with clarity that I was no doormat. His love love story failed, and after two months he wanted to come back home. I kicked his ass. We didn’t have kids. Worked very hard through therapy to recover my self esteem. Few years passed by, I have the best family and the most loving husband I could ever have wished for. I made it. It was very hard. I cried a lot. But I put myself first. Therapy helped tremendously. Good luck and time will telll you what the right answer is. [/quote]

This. It sounds like you just didn't want to be alone. So much of what you said was about who to call after work or fill those small times. You have friends you can call instead. Or, get a good book to fill them. You probably jumped into this marriage with eyes open, but just wanted to have someone. Therapy, for you, is the answer. Why do you feel empty without a husband? Especially this one? Let it go. Watch him regret it. Keep moving toward a much more selective dating process and a quality husband. No one wants to be a double divorcee, but it happens and can be a healthy thing. But, if you really want to improve your chances of not being a triple divorcee, you've got a lot of self work to do.

Call a therapist today.
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