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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team MIL. [/quote]

+1 I wouldn't work for anyone who blew up at me either. [/quote]

Grammy here and agree 100%! First, I wouldn't provide daycare for my grandkids (not an issue because my DIL stays at home.). I raised my kids. I love keeping my grandkids occasionally and do so any chance I get! But I'm not a daycare provider. And more importantly, if you blew up at me, there is no way ever I would keep your child.

You made the mess. Deal with it. [/quote]

Grammy, try a little reading comprehension. OP's MIL [I]repeatedly[/I] offered to care for this child. In fact, all but begged OP and her DH to have this child so she could provide childcare.

So yippie for you that you'll never offer to watch your grandkids. That's your decision and one you are totally within your rights to make. But that is not the situation OP finds herself in with a MIL who pulled a bait-and-switch.[/quote]

NP and not a grammy. OP was unhappy with grammy's intrusion into their lives but happy to take free full time childcare of their new baby for a year?

Honestly it sounds like grammy is being responsible, she understands she is incapable of behaving in bounds so she's not setting herself up for failure.

I have a situation in my family where my mom provides a LOT of financial assistance to one of my siblings who has a young child and everyone involved resents each other. Mom resents sibling and SO for not treating her with more respect, sibling and SO resent mom for having so much control over their lives. But no one is strong enough to break the dependency even though it would improve all those relationships. Sibling and SO like the extra money too much and mom likes that little bit of intrusion she has into their life and relationship. Yucky.

OP you made the choice when you blew up at her to not have her intimately involved in your household in this way. That was a good decision, but it does have consequences. [/quote]

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