Reply to People inviting themselves on your vacation?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "People inviting themselves on your vacation?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually know someone that this happened to -- wasn't a long vacation, more like a long weekend. My aunt/uncle booked a long weekend with their kids -- both of whom were headed off to college/moving states for a new job after college so the parents wanted to spend 4 solid days with just the kids. Forget where they picked but it was something like Savannah Ga or Charleston SC. Mom happens to mention to a friend they're headed to that place for next weekend, friend curiously asks where they're staying -- next thing they know friend books her and her DH a room at the same small hotel and expects to go sightseeing, eating meals etc. The kids were LIVID and acted like typical standoffish 18 and 22 yr olds bc they had this random lady and her DH in their faces when they really just wanted to hang out the 4 of them. Last time that happened as the couple found the kids rude!

OP -- only way I'd be ok with this is if it was Disney which is so big that you can easily be there with neighbors/coworkers etc. and never see them unless you make specific plans. Since you say it's a small resort -- can you switch dates? Or switch plans altogether to a different location without it costing you much?

If you can't -- I guess grin and bear it. Though can't you just NOT make plans with her. Like in the weeks leading up if she is asking about doing x or y -- can't you either punt and say sorry we fly by the seat of our pants, I can't commit to Tues at the spa with you bc we have to see what the kids will want OR say hmm -- I'll consider it, but you know Jane I'm viewing this as a getaway with DH and kids so once I figure out what the 4 us are doing each day/evening, if there are any open slots, I'll let you know. And then when she asks again -- say -- sorry our time is pretty booked the entire week.

How small is this resort though? Some small resorts which are isolated, you literally end up eating every meal at their 1-2 restaurants. If that's the case, you're going to see her/her family there unless you make a real effort to eat dinner at 10 pm or something to avoid them.

[/quote]

I went to visit a family member who lives in a condo on the beach in FL.   One day we went to the beach, and this lady from the condo came and sat with us. Not for just 5 or 10 minutes but for a hour or more, then another guy sees her and come over. We wanted to visit as a family because we hardly see each other.  People don't think, and I see this happening to OP.  After that we went far down the beach instead of close to the condo which mostly solved the problem.  [/quote]

Maybe I know really annoying people -- but I can think of family friends that JUST did something similar. They go on a cruise -- just the couple, age 60 something. On the cruise they realize there's a large family of the same ethnicity as them who is taking this cruise as a family vacation/family reunion. My family friends (who are annoying af and hanger-oners on a good day) decide -- OMG this is great, we'll have people to hang with this entire week. Except this family on a cruise REALLY wanted this to be a FAMILY vacation as they lived in Tenn, Fl, Georgia etc. and wanted the siblings and cousins to spend time with each other and have the cousins get to know each other better. So after a few polite incidents, family friends were rebuffed and later grumbling how this family of strangers was "all about themselves." Um well yeah -- it's THEIR vacation, they don't know you, they have no reason to befriend you. Sure cruises are a bit more "communal" than other vacations, but if you want to hang with your family, you do that.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics