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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?[/quote]

I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment.  Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values.  Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.[/quote]

No one is saying OP has to be friends with this person.  People are simply saying that is a stupid reason not to be friends.[/quote]

It’s only because OP is stating it as what they don’t have in common as the reason why rather than the flip side of saying she has friends with x in common.  But let’s be real, people make decisions every day about who they want to spend their limited free time trying to be friends.  Parents of boys in the class befriend other parents of boys because most likely that is who your child will hang out with.  If you meet someone in a moms group and they talk about how they might move away from DMV next year, I know I’m cordial but if I am looking to make mom friends I am not going to go out of my way to coordinate social things with that person because I know I would start from scratch again next year.

So to OP, stay cordial.  If you end up finding that thing you do have in common, like your kids are both in the band, build on it slowly.  If we use FB as an example, I know a few outspoken people with similar political values as me are have very close friends with polar opposite views. They stay friends I think because there is a shared history like high school or college and that person had been there for them for tough times and Vice versa. They also know each other well enough take not try to change the other person while believing the other person is a good person.[/quote]

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