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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I’m sorry you’re in pain. But no, your ex didn’t cross a boundary. It’s an awkward situation, no doubt, but that’s all - he didn’t seem to be deliberately trying to upset you.

You’ve said everything you needed to say to him, but you can’t control him. And you’re not in a relationship with him anymore, so what he does or doesn’t do has to become irrelevant to you.  This guy is taking up an enormous amount of space in your head, which is probably why you’re reacting so dramatically to a pretty mundane interaction..

You’ve mentioned in prior threads that you live in a tiny town but is there really no way to avoid seeing him for a while?

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Certainly awkward.

Frostburg has a population of fewer than 10,000 people, and ex and I live two blocks from one another. Even if I venture further afield, the population in the area is so sparse we're bound to run into each other sooner rather than later. However, if I'm able to avoid Frostburg proper for a while the likelihood of my seeing him will decrease. I saw him on Saturday and Sunday, saw him Wednesday of the previous week....its difficult to avoid him here.

I had therapy last night and spoke entirely about my anxiety surrounding this break up. My therapist told me that physically seeing an ex makes it much more difficult to move on given the attachment bonds formed. He suggested staying away from our town as much as possible for several weeks. [/quote]

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