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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ha! So choreplay is what gets panties wet? The previous women posters, sexually attracted to males all around (except for dear hubby), you think strange men have been getting them hot by washing dishes and vacuuming? Oh, wait. So those ladies just dying for an open marriage, they can get horny for random d$ck (choreplay not required) but the HUSBAND turns her right off... unless he does enough dishes!!  And if I’m not mistaken, several women on this thread bluntly admitted their husbands pull their weight and still they weren’t interested.

[b]Sorry I’m not buying your tale, sex therapist. [/b]Here’s an idea: men, if wife’s not interested, inform her not to wait up on Friday nights: from now on you will be out on sex dates. Boom, problem solved.[/quote]

NP here.  I'm a woman, and I think the sex therapist is wrong.  I do believe that it can be a marital/relationship issue if there is an imbalance in who does chores, but I don't think it has anything to do with sexual attraction.  In fact, I've known women who stay with men who do NO chores, do not help, and are even borderline abusive, but the women stay because the sex is great and they are (who knows why) sexually attracted to the guy (even though he's a jerk).

I don't think sexual attraction is rational, but all of these threads try to make it into that.

I think the larger problem is that a lot of women marry men they aren't that into sexually because they are marrying for other things (stability, good provider, whatever).  In the beginning, the lack of sexual attraction isn't as evident because the newness of it all can at least spur sexual curiosity (which people can confuse as attraction).  But that passes.

I honestly think that sexual attraction should be seen as equally important as other factors when deciding whether to marry someone.  No, it shouldn't be the only thing, but I think too many women discount it.  Then later they blame low libido.  Yet those same women are still ready that stupid however many Shades of Grey novel and going to see Magic Mike XL, so obviously they have a libido.  [/quote]

She is not a therapist, she is just a bitter creature. She should actually be ashamed of herself for holding herself out as a therapist and advising people. [/quote]

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