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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You people are awful and are one of the reasons former foster youth are so stigmatized. I grew up in foster care and aged out at 18. I lived in dozens of homes from infancy until I aged out. I experienced severe abuse and trauma. I aged out into homelessness my senior year of high school, but I graduated with a 4.2 GPA and went on to college. I graduated at the top of my class. Today I have a career and run a program to better the lives of former foster youth. Do I have problems? Sure, but so do you! And if you don't, you're lying to yourself.

I could start listing off all kinds of people struggling in life and try to lump them as a class of people to stamp warning labels on. You know who are the most dangerous people statically? Straight, White, Heterosexual, MIDDLE CLASS men.

And I don't believe that telling someone you grew up in foster care is taboo or something you should be ashamed to bring up on a second date. It's like saying you can't tell someone you have a mom and a dad on a second date. Or telling gay people not to mention their partners because it's just too much information that they love someone. Foster care was my life experience and I'm not going to hide it to make YOU feel more comfortable. It might make you uncomfortable because it's not the same story you're used to hearing, but that's your problem, not mine. It took me a LONG time, but I finally stopped being ashamed of it. When people ask me about my family (because everyone asks about your family) I tell them I grew up in foster care. Screw you people with your severe judgement and/or pity. [/quote]

Beautiful? More like a nonsensical knee-jerk reaction.

We, the people, may be awful in your eyes. Guess what, we are not going to hide our opinions to make you more comfortable. Perhaps, you're only used praise for overcoming your odds. But to quote you, "That's your problem."

Nobody in the thread said they didn't have any problems. I'm not sure where you're going with that.

I'm sorry you grew up to be a racist filled with hate for heterosexual men. It's ironic that you fall into the trap of lumping a large group of people together while condemning it.

Obviously, your life is not something to be ashamed of, and you're free to discuss it on any date. Just keep in mind, that the other people may or may not like you. Is it severe judgement? Pity? Perhaps. I'll respond in your own words, "That's your problem."

I'm sorry to hear you were abused and experienced hardships in your younger years. I truly am. It was unfair and should not have happened. But it did. And it shaped you. And other people may like who you became. Or not. That's life.

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