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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step One - get your career going again and get a nanny that helps with the kids.  See if it helps the marriage - if it doesn't, then at least you will be ready to stand on your own two feet[/quote]

This is the most sane advice, rather than trying to sparkle yourself up into a gem he can't afford to lose, get your career back.

He's an ass to say he's the best you can do. It's also kind of gaslighty since he had to woo you in the first place. 
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OP here. DH earns around 2m per year. We were both graduate students when we started dating. He was humble and kind, hardworking and had lots of potential. Now he is a self important prick.[/quote]

I feel for you, OP. What is preventing you from hiring help and doing some things - whether work or something else - that brings you personal happiness? Your overall dynamic might shift if you have your own sense of self and happiness. And to all of the "power" posters - he must realize that you can leave and take half of his wealth, no? [/quote]
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I have part time help. DH told me to hire full time help so he isn’t burdened with helping. [/b]

I have mentioned going back to work and he has previously shot it down saying I won’t make enough to make it worth our while. I don’t care how much I earn. I am going to work part time at least.

He has been nice to me today. He can sense when I’m super pissed vs normal mad.[/quote]

It sounds like your husband made a reasonable suggestion here and you shot it down. If you're making $2 million, this should be a no-brainer given that you clearly resent being a SAHM. I get the feeling that much of your anger is about you being upset that your husband continued having a lucrative career and you didn't.

Get full-time help and get back into the workforce, and try to recognize that your situation is better than the overwhelming majority of humanity.[/quote]

Not OP but getting the full-time help so he doesn’t have to help out sounded a wee bit jerkish to me. Sure he shouldn’t be expected to wash dishes or come home and clean but I read it as him not wanting to be bothered with the kids. He seems to look down on her a bit for not having an identity outside of being a SAHM. It’s almost as if she’s just the nanny while he lives the life of a busy, single guy who can throw himself into work because he has no family to be concerned about. Then the ‘you can’t do better’ comment is just UGH![/quote]

Maybe, though some SAHM's view their husbands as the "relief shift" who take over primary parenting duties as soon as they get home.

It still sounds like hiring help would be valuable here. At least OP would be less stressed out and be more able to appreciate her situation if she has more free time.[/quote]

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