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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that wages should only be garnished if the parent required to pay child support has shown an inability/unwillingness to pay on time/at all.

Not all dads are deadbeats...whether they are with their child(ren)'s mother or not. If mothers are going to be given the benefit of the doubt when it comes to caring for the kids (until they prove otherwise) why does this not extend to dads?[/quote]
Because missed payments can mean missed rent or not enough money to pay for food or utilities for some people.  This is what happened to my sister. She didn't have his wages garnished because he "promised" to send child support. After months of missed payments, she finally had his wages garnished, and then he got really upset with her.  I kept telling her to garnish his wages from the get go.  They got a divorce because he was incredibly selfish and immature.  That should've been red flag for her to garnish his wages, but she gave him the benefit of doubt.[/quote]

I get that, but garnished wages from the paying parent could also result in missed rent, or not enough money for food or utilities. I guess I'm trying to say that it seems like there is the perception that child support paying parents are not to be trusted, but child support receiving parents are (as per the title of this thread).

Yes there are deadbeat dads out there. There are also deadbeat moms. Some people choose not to pay their child support or are deliberately unemployed or underemployed. Some people receive child support and choose not to spend it on their children. But this is not the case across the board and I disagree with automatically garnishing wages from a parent just because of the bad behavior of a few...not unless the same scrutiny will be applied to those receiving child support.[/quote]

Or, the wage garnishment from the state could be late to the CP even though it was taken from the NCP and cause issues for the CP who is relying on that money.  My husband used to direct pay and he'd always pay early.  Ex insisted it be a garnshment (she tells the kids he's a deadbeat so she didn't like the checks coming to the house so if its a garnshment it comes from the state, not him) and it was usually a week later as they needed processing time.  She'd call screaming at him about it and he'd tell her it was your choice, you deal with it as it came out of my check and I'm not paying twice.

Or, my husband had a job and military pension.  She got a portion of the military pension.  His job was garnished.  She was not entitled to the rest of the pension but she submitted the court order anyway and was getting a double garnishment from both checks.  He had to take it to court to get the one removed from the military and it was gross as the judge refused to make her pay back the money.  So, for 6 months she was getting double what she should and no one considered he needed something to live on.

My husband's ex also claimed when he self-paid that he didn't pay and the money he showed he did pay was a gift and not child support... we spent hours fighting over it in court as she wanted to claim it wasn't child support.  Turned out two of the three kids and her alimony should have been removed so she really messed herself over as she walked away with child support for one child that time.  The garnishment if done properly is so much better.  Even though he had every payment fully documented with a copy of her signing the check she still tried to lie about it all.[/quote]

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