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[quote=Anonymous]I get it -- waited until well into my 30s. Whether you admit it or not -- or even realize it -- you're scared to have sex so you're coming up with reasons not to whether it's a Wed. or you had a long commute.

My thoughts -- get it done with for the first and second time bc the longer you wait and think about it, the more it becomes a mental issue. I agree that it's better to do it when you don't feel rushed -- i.e. it's already 10 pm, my alarm goes off at 5 am tomorrow. BUT we're on Wed. right now. I'd shoot for Friday or Sat for the first time.

Unlike the others here who are saying go out to dinner etc., I wouldn't build it up that much or even wait until night time bc it gives you all day to be nervous and then your mind will start giving you excuses -- it's been a long day; that dinner took too long bc service was slow; you have a headache etc. Frankly I'd tell DH that you think Friday is the night and can he be home at 5 pm. As soon as he's home, slip on some lingerie, turn on some music, cuddle and let the feelings take over. Hell you'll be done early enough that you can go out to dinner or order a pizza after if you want.

If you really want to wait for a weekend -- go on Sat and again don't wait until night time. Nothing wrong with waking up, lying in bed with each other and letting it happen at 9 am; it's not like you have kids that'll barge in on you. Frankly if you do it Friday and it is at all tolerable for you -- you're not in pain -- I'd try to do it again Sat. Then suddenly you'll have times #1 and #2 out of the way and that mental load will be gone; it's one of those -- it gets better with practice things . . . .[/quote]

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