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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It doesn't sound like OP is withholding her daughter out of some sort of power struggle. The child is in school during the day, but the grandma won't take her on week nights because she wants the entire day. So should OP be pulling her kid out of school to placate grandma? My oldest is only 5 but our weekends are always booked up with birthday parties, sports, and various other get togethers and commitments. Sure we could send him to grandma's for a few hours here and here, but I wouldn't have him skip soccer practice or anbiethsay party because grandma isn't content with 3 hours of alone time.

OP, can you explain to her that your family schedule doesn't allow for DD to spend the whole day with grandma? Maybe if you make it clear she should be open to week nights she will take you up on it? I would absolutely not rearrange your schedule to fulfill this weird requirement though. [/quote]

I agree that OP doesn't seem to be engaging in a power struggle and that weekends can get busy, especially as kids enter the elementary school years.  However, I would accommodate when school is out on break etc because around those times, the other activities die down briefly as well.  I think as long as Grandma can get a couple all day visits (whatever works best when school is out of session and the nuclear family isn't vacationing etc) then limiting the other visits in the calendar year is more than fair.

As someone very close to my grandparents, I can say that the times I remember most and felt bonded to them most was days when it was just us, and my parents weren't around.  It's a unique relationship that forms in that freedom away from the parents, it's a gift to the child to have that relationship, and I understand the perspective of a grandparent who wants to nurture that.  I also agree that there has to be a balance.[/quote]

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