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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. I am a professor, and my colleagues and I do notice a social difference between the homeschooled children and the rest. It's as if they haven't developed the proper social "filters," for lack of a better word. They are generally bright, articulate students--good students--, but seem unaware of their own social awkwardness. They have no idea how to put other people at ease, and seem rather intense.

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I have noticed this also.  I used to teach at the high school level and students that were home schooled up until high school had a very hard time adjusting.  They were very nice, bright, hardworking students, but socially awkward and other students found them strange.  They definitely fell into the "weird outcast" group.  Of course, I taught at an urban, inner city public high school so they might not have had as many problems at a smaller suburban or small town HS.[/quote]

The lack of social skills that you are detecting may have been the precise reason that they were home schooled in the first place. How [b]disappointing[/b] that a college professor (if you really even are one) would be perplexed by a young adult who is [b][i]"unaware of their own social awkwardness"[/i][/b]. Kids are very cruel to each other, but you are the adult. How about if you model the behavior and put [b][i]them[/i][/b] at ease by reaching out to [b][i]them[/i][/b]. They lack filters, so [b][i]gently[/i][/b], show them where the filters should be. [/quote]

[quote]Professor here. Yes, I really am a professor, and [b]I'd like to think that I am a good one who cares about my students.[/b][/quote] 
The fact that you'd like to think you care, doesn't mean you actually do. You attitude is harsh. I would hope that if my kid is a freshman in college he'd have a more sensitive prof than you. I went to an ivy league school over 25 years ago and thank goodness, there was [i]some[/i] significant hand holding for a 17 year old like me on her first time away from home ever.

[quote]It is YOUR job as a parent to ensure that your child can survive and thrive in multiple social environments.[/quote]
Really? I must [b]ensure[/b] this? What if a parent has done everything in their power to do so and the kid is still a work in progress when they get to college? Should those students be crushed by your big bad dose of "get over it"? Wow!

[quote]and it's because their parents were brave enough to let their child go.[/quote]
Parents would hope that they would not be "letting them go" to the tune of 75k+ a year to be taught by such an insufferably arrogant adult as you appear to be here.

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Not the professor, but child of professors and YOU are the type of parent that every professor dreads.  I am constantly hearing stories about incoming college students who are utterly helpless, feel like they are entitled to a better grade/more accommodations/ less work etc. etc. My FIL has been teaching college students for 30+ years, and was Dean for part of that time, and he has noticed a marked difference between his current students and students of 5, 10, 15 years ago.  Guess which ones are the self-entitled, helpless ones? YOU are the type of parent that is preventing your child from growing up.  I moved from a tiny town out in the middle of nowhere, Montana, to Chicago by myself at age 18 to go to college.  I sure as hell did not expect or ask my professors for anything beyond what was taught in class.  What you are describing is NOT PART OF THE JOB!  Spending extra time helping a socially awkward college student isn't anyone's job but his/her parents and that should have been happening BEFORE college, not during or after.[/quote]

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