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[quote=Anonymous]I didn't read through all the responses so sorry if this has been addressed. Don't take it personally. We don't host large gatherings because our house is small and we have a dog who also gets overexcited when there are hoards of kids around. We have friends who don't host because they feel easily overwhelmed by the prospect. Others may not host because one spouse is introverted. Big parties result in a wider circle of social contacts but not deeper friendships. Those that invite us are usually not our close friends and we often feel like we wouldn't make the cutoff if they hosted a small dinner party. The group play dates are a nice idea when kids are young but a lot of people are hesitant to open their homes to large groups of kids at the same time.

I also feel like social connections are easier to make in small groups. We do invite 1-3 families at a time to our home for get-togethers. However, our house is even small for that so it's more when we feel overdue to reciprocate. We also invite others to join us for dinner out when leaving games or events and have made some great friends that way. I most often invite friends to meet for lunch and coffee or couples to do dinner out. We simply can't have the big parties. If I don't reciprocate that kind of invitation, it is definitely not that I don't like the couple that invited us.

Personally I think quality is more important than quantity. Have the big parties if they make you happy but don't have them expecting invitations. Instead focus on a few people/couples you feel you really have connected with and shore up those friendships in a more intimate setting. You'll find your social circle will grow naturally as your child enters elementary school and begins to do activities like sports, scouts, etc. [/quote]

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