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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me. No. 
I love him and I am committed but if we just met, i would not marry him.

He used to talk about moving to another state (I hate it here); now he is too set in his ways to explore anything other than where we are
He used to like to take trips (small/large/whatever); now he hates traveling with kids
He used to pitch in more and now i feel he is slacking big time
He struggles to understand or empathize with anyone/anything other than what HE has experienced or what HE would do. If HE wouldn't do XYZ he can't even begin to understand why I would want to or why I have. 
That is exhausting as we are obviously 2 different people who have only continued to become more different as our relationship goes on.

I do like that he is a great father and that is appealing and he continues to be playful and fun. [/quote]

It's good to see there is some silver lining in your clouds.  Have you had a heart to heart with him, a gentle non-threatening conversation perhaps?  Maybe a quiet dinner and start the conversation with you are concerned and only note one thing that's changed, like maybe the trips.  Tell DH you want to understand better why he seems to hate traveling, maybe remind him of fun trips from the past.  There could be a reason for some of his behavior.  Depending on his age, Low-T (testosterone) can affect men's physical and mental health (fatigue, depression, lack of enthusiasm, etc.) I'm not saying it's true for DH, but something to consider.   I hope things get better for you both.[/quote]

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