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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Really bad to let kids have phone or computer in their room alone.[/quote]

why? what is really bad about that?[/quote]

You really aren't aware that there's a ton of content on the internet that would be really inappropriate for a 10 year old to see and would be super easy for them to stumble on to?[/quote]

Also, victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying usually have comps in their rooms. Lots of unsupervised computer time.[/quote]

Good luck. We found out our DD was having group chat between friends by sharing a Google document on their school issued accounts.

If you watched her, it looked like she was just editing a word document. In reality it was a group chat! Kids will find a way...[/quote]

I think you're missing the point. You should make it as difficult as possible for your kids to find A way rather than help them along .[/quote]

Yep, as a mom to teens, I agree with this point generally. E.g., I might not be able to prevent my teen from drinking or having sex. That doesn't mean I allow my DSs to drink beer in their bedrooms are have their girlfriends sleep with them.[/quote]

Do you really not know how to control access or view activity at the mac address level? One does not need to physically look over a kids shoulder to know what is going on or to prevent access. Plus do you hover over your kid in the family room 24x7? Are your teens not allowed on the computer when you are not home to viaually monitor their phones, tablets, and computer?

We have our kids MAC addresses on auto shut down to the wireless at 9pm and that's just a fraction of the controls.[/quote]

I don't stand over either of my teens while they are on the computer. I wander in and out of the room, going about my business. The result is that they think twice about their surfing activity, because they know I could wander by at any given time. (This is a habit that will serve them well in their future workplace.) In addition, they are less likely to be watching videos, playing games, reading social networking sites, etc., when they are supposed to be doing their homework.

Look, I think screens in the bedroom is a horrible, horrible habit. I thought that about TVs back in the day, I continue to think it about computers and phones. Having screens in the bedroom tends to have an adverse effect on sleep. Having screens in the bedroom means that kids are more likely to be distracted from homework (assuming they are doing their homework in their room where the screens are.) And I prefer not to facilitate the growing tendency in our society to spend time in solitude staring at a screen instead of communing with humanity. So if having the screens in our home be in public areas means that my kids are hanging out in the living room/dining room/family room rather than spending all their time in their bedrooms, I call that a win. They can still choose to spend time alone in their rooms. They just aren't watching videos in there. This works really well in my family, and as others have noted, it's easier to enforce if you start early. In fact, at this point, I don't even have to enforce it, it is just our family habit. My oldest hewed to this habit right up until he went to college. Now, a sophomore in college, he does bring his phone to his room (and at age 19, this is certainly his prerogative), but he still uses his laptop in the public areas of the house and not in his bedroom.[/quote]

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