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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I found this by looking for a post on limerence. I'm pretty sure I experienced this, but all the "tools" you read about, like letting it run it's course and "no contact" did not work for me. It's been years. Does anyone have any experience like this carrying a torch for that long? I have always been someone who very rarely falls for someone, so this whole situation for me is very distressing. [/quote]

Mraa. No advice, but as someone who is 6ish years out I'm a little discouraged to hear this anecdote! Haha...do you find it continues to lessen with time or has it stayed pretty constant? Can you share anything more about the circumstances (what happened between you, are you still in contact, etc)?[/quote]

00:20, so are you saying that you still feel limerence six years later? Have you had contact with the person?[/quote]

Yeah...or at least to some extent. First, no we aren't in contact. 6 years ago is the last time I saw him, and we have had two (very brief - like "I was in ___ city, made me think of you, I miss you, hope you are well.) text exchanges in the entire time since then. I don't even really know where he lives or what he's up to these days.

And it's definitely not at the level that it was initially...it's continues to fade with time. But honestly by that I more mean that I now go a lot longer in between those annoying instances where I suddenly spend 2-3 days thinking about him obsessively. I will sometimes go for months without giving it anything more than a brief passing though, but then bam it hits me...and I will dream (very vividly and intensely) about him several nights in a row and get in a crazy spiral obsessive funk and have to fight myself very hard not to reach out (even though by now I know I won't). It used to be in my mind almost constantly, so that's an improvement. But...yeah, the feelings are pretty much just as strong [/quote]

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