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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you had an health issue that caused you to gain weight and it took you years to get it under control and find the right meds, but now it is and you are back to a normal weight and guys don't want to date you when they find out? Is that who you want for a life mate, someone who would cut and run when they found out about your health issue?[/quote]

Op here. Yes. I am back to my normal without of 110lbs. I have always worked out and took care of my health, but PCOS was something I couldn't control. Not to make excuses, but it's not like I just sat around eating junk food. PCOS is similar to a thyroid problem, and can cause people to gain and uncontrollable amount of weight. It's not easy to deal with. [/quote]

Congrats. I'm very happy for you and what you have done is fantastic. What immabout to say likely won't be popular but it's about what makes you happy. In general, men are visual creatures. With your clothes on, you are going to attract a certain type guy. Those guys may create expectations in their heads about how you look w/o clothes. Many posters are correct that you will, at some point, find a man that loves you for who you are. The question is: will the damage have already been done. Your post here tells me this is impacting you (as it would almost anyone). Pretty soon, you are going to be reluctant to let things advance physically and when you do, you will insist on complete darkness or being and staying under covers. It will make sex a chore rather than a great experience. You will not be able to enjoy yourself because you are concerned about what he's thinking.

Get an appt with a plastic surgeon and go and consult about what can be done. Don't skimp or bargain shop here. Find out who is the best, seek him/her out and ask if they have any before and after photos of similar work they've done so you can get an idea of what to expect and whether it's worth the cost. Often, the dr will work out a payment plan. The bottom line is you worked hard to achieve a certain look and there is something standing in your way of enjoying it. Only you can decide how you want to deal with it but this is one way for you to have everything you want and throw on a bikini next summer if that's what you feel.

If you decide that's not for you, then you need to be proud of your body and accept that you are great just the way you are. Don't settle for someone that thinks any less than that. Best of luck, whatever you decide and congrats again on the weight loss.[/quote]

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