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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This seems incredibly selfish.  You're willing to blow up your entire family for this.  You admit that your DH is a "nice, loving partner" yet you are willing to throw him to the curb for someone else.  Did you even try improving your own marriage or work on your own issues before going out and finding someone else? Marriage is not all sunshine and roses all of the time.  You made a commitment and frankly, it sounds like your marriage isn't even bad.  You just sound like an immature, bored housewife.[/quote]

I am definitely not a housewife.  And yes, we did work on our problems and went to counseling.  Unfortunately for me it seems it was too late.  I can't get those feelings back for him. [/quote]

Of course you can't, because in most marriages, spouses' feelings for each other change over time.  If you start a new life with your AP, your feelings for him will probably morph over time too.  What are you going to do then? Have another affair and leave him, too?

Look, unless you and DH are fighting all the time, or something happened to erode your trust in him, or he is abusive or an addict or something else that would warrant a divorce, you seem to think YOUR feelings should trump everyone else's.  I personally could not inflict the kind of instability that comes with divorce onto my children unless it was absolutely necessary for our physical or emotional health and safety.  [/quote]
+1  Have to agree with this.  OP, you may feel passion and euphoria with your AP now, but it's also because you don't currently live with your AP or have a child with him. The drudgery of everyday life and living together, especially parenting together, can kill romance and passion.

It's one thing if you and your DH can't get along, always fighting, etc.. but if you realize he's a good guy, and this is just about how you "feel", then you really need to take those rose colored glasses off and think about what this will mean for your kids' futures, and what will happen if your AP turns out to be a "bad" husband?  You are not 15.  You are a grown up.  You have to know that passion fades in any marriage.[/quote]

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