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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So my husband's job does have health insurance. The issue is that we need health insurance to be as much of a guarantee as possible, given his MS.

His job doesn't exist on a part-time basis. He is a VP at a large company and supervises a large marketing org. He can't do his job part-time.

For those asking -- I make $90k. I care about having a career; I'm not just working for the stability. I get that I'm probably just trying to have it all, which is impossible. [/quote]

OP, I totally get it. We make a similar HHI with a very similar salary breakdown between DH and me, and we have two kids in daycare. My DH also has some chronic health conditions and though not as serious as MS, they do impact our decision for me to keep working, too. I still struggle with wanting to stay home, trying to find ways to simplify, worrying if I spend enough time with the kids. I know my DH worries about these things too, and we both balance needing to maintain our own physical and mental well-being with the needs of our kids, our home, our careers. It can be overwhelming.

I'm a few years further down the road than you are, and obviously I made the decision to keep working. DH and I commute in opposite directions too, with our home and daycare being roughly in the middle. There were some very rough times, especially after our second was born. I recently decided to shift direction with my career and pursued an internal role with my company that allows me to telework most days and go into our main office a few times a month. I used to be client facing and required onsite access, and now I work in resource management for those clients. It definitely does not have the trajectory that my old role had, but my knowledge of the industry qualified me for the job. It's stable, flexible, and geographically transferable. I'm also available for my kids. The tradeoff is I do not have the earning potential I once had, though I'm really not sure how far I could have made it up the ladder in my old role anyway.

Anyway, just one of many anecdotes on how someone managed a similar situation. I do think it's worth examining your professional options at this point to see if there's something that might offer you more flexibility...you just honestly don't know until you start poking around (I know I didn't). Something that helped me in the early days was to try to be present and in the moment when I was with my babies - no phones, no thoughts about work or what needs to be done, just me holding and caring for my baby and really being there. It makes the time you do spend so special. Good luck.[/quote]

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