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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m feeling really sad and frustrated today. I am feeling angry at my husband and I know I shouldn’t because it’s not something he has complete control over.
My husband is an attorney at a big law firm and works very long hours. I am basically close to 100% responsible for our kids at any given time. He comes home around 9-10pm most nights but sometimes 10 or 11. And he often has to work to do once he comes home and for hours on end on weekends. Unfortunately there is just no way for him to cut down his hours. So basically it is impossible for him to be an equal partner.
I’m exhausted. I also work, be it part time but it’s not my job that is breaking me down-it’s everything else. It’s just being completely responsible for every aspect of this family’s well being. My husband is the main bread winner but other than financial stuff it’s all on me. 
I am just so tired. Tired of being the one who always has to remember to sign the permission forms or remember the date of meetings/special events/birthday parties/dr. Appointments etc... I feel like my mental load is on overdrive all the time. And I’m jealous of people who have family near by. I am jealous of the moms I know who can go out for drinks and things because on those nights their husbands stay home with the kids.  And I’m jealous of moms whose husbands are equal partners and can consistently be  available for things.
I guess I’m mostly upset because I feel like there is no way to change it. Like my husband legitimately can’t set aside time because if he gets an important work email he literally has to deal with it immediately.
My kids have been fighting non stop for 2 hours. 
And all I can think about is all the shit I need to get done this weekend. 
I love my husband dearly. And I know it upsets him too. But it’s just hitting me hard today. 
I know I need to get some regular babysitters to help me but my husband wants us to meet the babysitter together and obviously that has been a challenge.
There are weeks when it is better and that’s good. But there are also weeks where I hardly ever see him and neither do the kids.
Oh and he wants another baby. I just can’t.
I was putting my younger child to bed last night and started crying because I always imagined reading to our kids together at night and maybe that happens once a month. And it’s just sad. 
I’m probably being overly dramatic but I just needed to write it. Thanks for reading.
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