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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I coach a soccer team and just reached out to a mom of a boy who is friends with some of the kids on the team. I don't know if he has a diagnosis, but he is physically awkward, inattentive and doesn't generally do sports, and I had hesitated in mentioning to his mom that we have a spot on the team because some of the other parents are super focused on winning, and put pressure on me. But this thread got me feeling bad about that and prompted me to reach out to her so she can see if he's interested. So thank you for sharing your perspectives.[/quote]

As a parent who didn't care less about winning, I will say that the issue wasn't winning. It was about the overall experience my own child had while participating on the team.

The reality is that some kids were so disruptive that practice was a serious struggle to get through for all kids and became really boring.

In terms of school teams, sorry, but sometimes kids are just tapped out by the end of the day of already dealing with a child in school and they don't want to have to deal with him/her in sports and on weekends.  Another issue I saw a lot of the times was that kids who were ok in school but feel apart during practices because they were later in the day and the kids were too tired and/or because medications had worn off.

I believe both kids - NT and special needs - have a right to play on the teams but in truth over many years I never saw any good ways of balancing the two out. [/quote]

Fortunately, both ethics and the law have taken care of this dilemma for you.

In our society, we have decided that some groups of people have a history of being discriminated against, and that therefore their right to be included is protected.  Children with disabilities fall into their group, and their right to play in this circumstance is both a legal and a moral right.

Other groups don't have this protection, because long term data shows that they haven't needed it.  One group in this category is assholes, like your kid.  Being able to play on a team without people you'd like to discriminate against is not a right, either legally or morally.

Your kid is likely invited to play, but he doesn't get to discriminate any more than the child of Nazis who is "tapped out" with Jewish children, or the white child who is tired of black people does.

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