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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an Indian woman and I find it slightly embarrassing that myself, my sister and our 3 close friends have all always exclusively dated and wound up marrying white preppy men.

Yes of course if you ask us why, we'll say, " love is color blind!" But somehow I can't help but wonder at the underlying self-racism that must be deeply seated in each of our psyche. It's not like we were all born here. We each immigrated to the U.S when old enough to know our roots and culture. I am very happy in my relationship and so are the rest of the women I reference, but sometimes I look at photographs of the pairs of us and cringe.[/quote]
I hope not, but this post sounds like it was written by a jealous Indian man.   I can assure you that with the amount of baggage, sexism, racism, overbearing in-laws, superstitions, and outdated beliefs that the Indian culture possess that Indian women who are married to white men don't regret it at all.  If I'm a modern, Westernized woman why would I want to marry within a culture that treats women as second class citizens?  Also, don't even get me started with the family honor and other BS that comes along with Indian culture.  Some Indians are quite happy to be free from that nonsense.    There is nothing wrong with exclusively dating and marrying white men if that is who you are attractive to.   My husband is white and I don't care what other people think about my marriage.    What I find cringe worthy is people trying to dictate or control who minority women marry.  Minority men can marry whomever they damn well please, but people want to dissect why minority women don't adhere to some cultural stereotypical mating rule.   They want us to feel guilty or sorry for not marrying within our ethnic group.  Sorry, there is no guilt here!      [/quote]

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