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[quote=Anonymous]OP, before your DH left, did he say "let's talk about this later" or something to signal to you that he didn't want to get into it right then and there?  If he said any of those things and you kept pushing, it's no surprise that he walked away.  Even if he didn't say anything along those lines, I think you have to give him the benefit of the doubt that he was reaching his limit and needed to leave before things escalated - which was probably the right way to handle it though it sucks to be the one left standing there.

That said, it seems like you two need to have a conversation about what should happen if DH feels like doing that again.  Would you have felt better if he said, "I need some space right now.  I am going to leave.  I'll call you in a little bit once I've calmed down"? Was it the abruptness and lack of communication about what was happening that is upsetting? Figure this out and then talk to him so that you are both on the same page about how to handle it.

You should also figure out a way to talk to your kids about what they witnessed, even if your 3yo doesn't understand.  Ideally, you and DH would talk to them together and explain how you BOTH could've handled it differently.  We parents aren't perfect and I think it's important for kids to see their parents apologize to each other, talk to them about how it made them feel (it must've been a unsettling for them to see their dad leave) and explain a better way to handle things.  [/quote]

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