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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So they eat all their meals out?  And you want to eat out but are stuck at home with a sleeping child? Will your baby not sleep in the car seat? It is not realistic to expect them to change their schedule on account of a baby. How about you and your DH swap duties, you go for brunch one day, he stays home, and he goes out for dinner, the next day you go out for dinner, and he stays home with the baby.[/quote]

Not the OP, but I would not want to go out to eat with my ILs while my husband stayed home.  I would try to push for one meal to be more baby-friendly.  See if they can't move brunch later, and then see if you can't be more flexible on dinnertime.  [/quote]

Flexibility is a give and take, and who is to say baby won't fall asleep on the ride to the restaurant even if it is not nap time? Quite frankly, the fact that OP and you think that babies can't have a little change in routine and life is telling. OP states that her baby is the one with the schedule, not her. That is fine, but if that baby truly has the exact schedule, won't that baby sleep in the car seat in the restaurant too? Isn't that what baby schedule means, that this baby will sleep at this exact time, no matter where and what is happening?  This is OP's inflexibility showing, not her baby's. This is very common in new mothers, everything is a life and death and must be done just so. I bet you with the second child, she will learn to loosen up. Also, having a bit cranky baby for a few days never killed the baby or the mom. OP wants to go out and eat, OP should adjust. Never before were elderly made to endure baby and mommy schedules before recent decades. OP should think of it in same terms her ILS are thinking, they are inflexible and she is inflexible, the things is that elderly had their flexibility and accommodating their ILS and parents and now it is her turn, and she doesn't know this yet, but she will learn to be more flexible until she is elderly and becomes just like her ILS. And her baby will go back to the schedule when they are back home.  And if ILS are also paying, OP should suck it up.[/quote]

NP - yeah, no. We tried the on the in laws schedule thing and all that left us with was a screaming, overstimulated, exhausted baby. Have you ever tried to calm a flailing baby so upset and tired he won't even nurse even though it's been hours since he last did so? Thankfully, for all their faults, they modified their preferred schedule to accommodate his needs. [/quote]

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