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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've decided I'm going to send all the screenshots to my mom anonymously. I'm going to do it on Friday so she can use the weekend to process and think about her options before going back to work.

I believe that if I talked to my dad he would be remorseful that I found out (only that he got caught) but not about the affair itself. I also worry he would downplay what was really happening. My mom needs to see the truth about what he was saying and planning to do with the AP because it directly impacts my mom. There are emails talking about their plan to move to the NE together and about selling my childhood home and how long it might be on the market, about renting out her apartment, etc. This isn't a flig or an emotional affair. This is real and my mom needs to know.[/quote]

So he's making concrete plans to leave your mom. Absolutely she needs to know that. You know your mom and we don't -- any chance she would put blinders on and ignore the screen shots? Pretend nothing's there? Or do nothing, out of fear dad will retaliate somehow?

Sadly, if dad is talking with his AP about moving, leaving mom, house sales (do your parents live in this house?!) etc., he probably also has secret accounts stashed away and might have had them for years as part of his long-term plans to leave. You parents' poor money choices that you mentioned earlier may actually be based in lies by dad about how much he makes, bonuses he's hidden, etc.

OP, you may need to follow up with mom though I do understand your reluctance to talk with her directly about this. But it sounds like dad has been financially planning things that could really screw your mom later when dad and the AP leave. Do mom a favor and research divorce lawyers. She needs a real shark who will dig up anything dad has stashed away.[/quote]

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