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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What I take from this spin off and the original is [b]that most people think quite highly of themselves.[/b]

I'm seeing this thought process: Nope nobody got away from me, but I certainly am the one that got away for 2-3 other people!

1) we rewrite history. What you remember isn't always what happened. (i.e. you really did think she was the one that got away when she broke up with you, as opposed to now, where you are looking at her facebook page and realizing she got a little chubbbbbby.

2) you can't know that your ex really thinks you are the one that got away. It could be he thinks he dodged a hollow-tipped bullet, and you just think you are better for him than his current wife/situation. Not always the case.

got that off my chest.
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Not to highjack the thread, but I'm curious why this is considered a problem?  What's wrong with thinking highly of yourself? Serious question.

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Nothing, actually. Perhaps my choice of words was wrong.

But the people who are saying they are the "one that got away" really have no idea if they are or not. They've been following their ex's life (apparently) (and in my eyes, this is a clue that they think he may have been then one that got away) and think they were better than what he ended up with. When, in reality, they have no idea, because they are not in that marriage.

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Thanks for replying.  I am PP who posted about XBF naming his kid after me.  Unfortunately, I know I'm the one that got away for him, because he has posted it on Facebook several times. Every year on my B-day, he posts some old pic of us together saying "The one that got away".He's been doing this for like 8 years.   I don't think I'm better than who he chose after me (although, I do think highly of myself :wink: ), but I definitely think he realizes he made a mistake letting me go.  I am/was overweight and he let his friends and family convince him that he could do better.  He loved me, but my weight really bothered him.  But I was like, Dude! I was fat when you fell in love with me. Don't get mad at me because I put it on you!  Anyway, I didn't lose the weight, but I graduated from an Ivy, I have an income close to seven figures, and most would say my DH is  a catch.  My life now is pretty cool and I've done well.  I think he feels as though if we had stayed together, he would be doing well too.   I did accept his friend request 8-9 years ago so he could see how great my life is even as a fat chick and I could watch his fall apart.  I know that makes me a bad person. Sorry, kinda sorry, okay not sorry.  I do feel bad that he is twice divorced and he still sends me these sorry a$$ messages talking about "Let me know when you come it town, let's have dinner" or "I saw your mom at Kroger and she gave me a hug!'  GTFOH! [/quote]

Well, I kind of think you were the one that got away. But the others? Bah. Most of the time I think it is just a romantic notion of wanting to the be one that got away, when in reality, it was a break up for a good reason.[/quote]

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