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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Male here let me describe what usually happens with me and my DW (I think this is pretty common)  I'll give the male POV

Wife wants to discuss something (fine)

She discusses the first thing which then quickly becomes multiple things which then quickly becomes nagging from my POV

I have a couple options

1.  Defend myself (this just escalates the discussion and turns it into an argument which isnt productive)

2.  Do nothing (get treated like a doormat which isn't good)

3.  Withdraw (the best option here)

After withdrawing we can circle back in a day or so as long as we just focus ON ONE THING..... Pro tip usually it isn't really the thing thats the issue its something else

OP why are you mad when your husband reengages?

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+1 from another guy[/quote]

OR 4. Try to see things from her perspective and show some empathy.

I know this from experience. As soon as I started approaching any argument with my husband immediately with "how might he see things? What might his perspective be here?" everything changed for us. Those are not your only options. [/quote]

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