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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Yes, it's silent treatment.  He basically hasn't spoken to me since Monday night.  I don't exist to him right now.  Doesn't respond when I speak.  Yesterday I sent a few normal emails on logistical planning matters (unrelated to our "talk", just stuff that needs to get done) and no response.  [/quote]

Okay, that's not okay.  I tend to withdraw, too, but it doesn't mean the silent treatment. [b] It means I need some time to process; I don't hide out in the bedroom, I just do stuff alone (which might include doing the dishes). [/b] But the silent treatment is childish and mean.  Tell him it's fine to take some time to process big emotions or issues, but in the meantime, normal life has to go on and he can't ignore someone who lives in the same house.  [/quote]

A lot of introverts do this. OP, is your DH an introvert? [/quote]

Even if he was, that doesn't explain the silent treatment.  That's not cool, and [b]introversion is no excuse.[/b]  [/quote]

There's nothing to "excuse" him about. That's the way he is wired. I am sure OP knew it before she got married. [/quote]

What?  Nothing to "excuse" him for? So, because he is wired this way, he can go on ignoring his kids, and house and chores because he is mad? It is not just silent treatment anymore he is giving OP, he is not not doing anything because he is mad. Let's go with a scenario where the same behavior is how OP is wired. Then she does nothing and gives him the silent treatment and the kids are left what?  Falling off the staircase, hungry, wet, left home alone?  Because according to you introversion, silent treatment and not doing your parental duty is the way people are wired to act like mad? Yet, another lazy person excusing lazy behavior and making "excuses" for men.

You know what, which is it? Are men all cavemen who feel that when his wife is mad at him, it is an insult to his provider ability? Or are they all wimps when their "female" is angry who only prove it that they are not good at providing anything? Pick one, you can't have both at the same time. He is mad that he thinks that she thinks he is a loser, and then he is proving to her just how big of a loser he is? [/quote]

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