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[quote=ZachF][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, we're getting married in 3 months and my fiance' didn't completely sign out of his email on the lap top.  I saw in his inbox that he signed up for a membership to a gay dating/hook up site. That's the description on the site. The email was the link to confirm his membership. He had clicked on it.  It showed his log in and password, so I logged in. He has his general location, height, weight, age filled in.  His bio says "just a normal guy looking to meet normal people"

OMG. [/quote]

Why were you violating his privacy? What strange fetish do you have that makes you pour through your fiance's email? He should reconsider the engagement.[/quote]
Did you bother to read her post?  How strange of you to describe her desire for the truth as a fetish.  That's quite a stretch on the definition of, fetish.  HE should reconsider?  OK, he can certainly do that if he feels like you do.  He caught her snooping and now he is in major damage control, trying to cover one big lie with many more lies while dragging another person into the web.  Wouldn't you love to hear that conversation between him and Marc?  "Marc, man, I need a BIG favor.."  "I'm in such deep shit, you've got to cover for me." He doesn't seem to upset about how she found out, does he?

Sorry but once your partner does something to raise serious suspicion of activities that could have a huge impact on your relationship and future together, they open themselves up to being snooped on.  While I'll agree that snooping is bad, and people have a right to privacy, I won't go as far as to say that snooping is never justified.  One shady move by one partner opens them up to the other stepping outside the normal boundaries to protect themselves.

The need to know the truth she would never find out otherwise, not even by asking him (she did that, remember?) trumps his right to privacy IMHO. Cheaters who take care to operate with absolute discretion and privacy are able top lead these double lives.  Those who get caught are the careless ones who then invite the snooping.

"He/She left their browser open and..." is the start of so many threads here where someone discovers their relationship is not the one they thought they were having.[/quote]

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